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Based on that study, and based on the size of the various communities in the U. Typically, she is stymied by religious laws and social customs that make divorce difficult, especially for women. Often, she is shunned by her family and friends, who view divorce as shameful.

If she was brought to the U. However, women and girls are more likely than men and boys to be coerced into marriage, and they face additional, significant challenges — in the form of religious laws and social customs — when trying to resist or leave it. For example, a woman in the Orthodox Jewish community does not have the legal right to divorce her husband; only men have the right to grant a divorce under Orthodox Jewish law.

Unchained is the only nonprofit in the U. This hybrid form of marriage allows British Indians to adapt different elements to reflect both the British and Indian aspects of their identities. These two styles of marriage — semi-arranged marriage and love-cum-arranged marriage — symbolise the future of arranged marriages in Britain. Younger British Indians increasingly prefer the latter over the former. While forced marriage has been made illegal in the United Kingdom and love marriages are held up as the norm, arranged marriages end up occupying a grey zone between the two — always suspect and never desirable.

Consequently, people who have arranged marriages are treated with suspicion and are regarded as a threat to social cohesion. As such, it is ever more important to acknowledge the diversity of arranged marriage forms. We need to move beyond the idea that love and arrangement have to be mutually exclusive, embodying the differences between traditional Eastern and the modern Western cultures respectively.

In fact, love and arrangement can exist in tandem, as shown by the marriage styles that are popular among British Indians today. Portsmouth Climate Festival — Portsmouth, Portsmouth. Edition: Available editions United Kingdom. Become an author Sign up as a reader Sign in. So described, the arranged marriage finds its rationality in a system that safeguards mate selection by placing this under the guardianship and authority of elders of the extended families of both marital agents with the aim to align both families in a durable relational bond, that strengthens its economic and societal standing, and that allows for a legitimate space and belonging for the conjugal union.

This typology is an ideal construct, in the same way the autonomous marriage is also an ideal construct. All around the world, this ideal is an inspirational reference point in arranged marriage cultures. This said, of course reality does not always represent the ideal portrayed, however inspirational. Still, the value of the ideal and the ideal type remain: this construct, even if it is an utopia, is necessary as it provides a neutral and unbiased understanding of the arranged marriage, one that is detached from a restrictive binary approach that others the arranged marriage.

The ideal construct serves also as a measuring rod to study the reality of arranged marriage practices that depart from that construct. Taking a look then into these realities, one will find that, for one, elders are not always capable of arranging marriages well. They may confuse parental authority with the exercise of parental power, force even.

In addition, elders continuously share marriage arranging duties with their children, as the variety of semi-arranged marriage types suggest. Elders may not always believe that transitions towards freedom and individualism are proper.

Many, in arranged marriage cultures, parents as well as young people, are grappling with the blended agendas of the liberal and communitarian, of the individual and the collective that are shaping arranged marriage realities. A very sensitive portrayal of an intergenerational struggle in this regard can be seen in the drama film A Fond Kiss : protagonist Casim, son of Pakistani Muslim immigrants to the UK, asks his parents to accept his love choice for Roisin, a Catholic divorcee.

This Casim refuses and the family breaks up. Hybrid arranged marriages are in a sense partly separated from and partly belonging to traditional as well as liberal structures.

It is vital to represent and express belonging to these traditional structures in the discourse on arranged marriage. It is important to acknowledge notions of guardianship, authority, and community when one measures change and modernization in arranged marriage realities, but also when one measures distancing from that very modernization in efforts to hold on to traditions. The current tendency, when marital agents demand a stronger role in mate selection, is to capture this in a language of freedoms, control, agency and the rising individual.

Marital agents granted or demanding a role in match making, challenge in essence part of the authority of parents, but do not act as fully atomistic units. When parents allow their child to jointly decide with them on marriage matters, this is articulated in literature mostly as a step that invests power in the child.

However, this ought to also be valued as a sharing of parental authority or guardianship with the child. Adding authority and guardianship to the conversation on the arranged marriage gives rise to a language that relates to and represents community.

For instance, why do some parents share their authority, why do others not? Might it be that in diaspora contexts elders are searching for new meaning to traditional concepts such as authority and guardianship and need a language to cope with this hybrid dynamic rather than a language that calls upon their children to exit anything traditional? Asking and addressing such questions will contribute to a discourse on arranged marriage that respects the very foundations it is built upon.

It is knowledge about these foundations that is pivotal if we wish to understand the arranged marriage proper and change in that domain. This article argued for a full renunciation of the binary approach adopted in literature in studying arranged marriage.

In the binary approach, the arranged marriage emerges as a lesser conjugal union in comparison to the ideal and prized autonomous conjugal union. Recognizing that the arranged marriage must be valued on its own merits, this article sought for an ideal typical construct of the arranged marriage, as a neutral departure point in a study of this marital system and as a tool to explore arranged marriage realities.

The arranged marriage is fundamentally rooted in the sociological principles of collective belonging, parental guardianship and the protective, provident authority of elders in match making. This article calls for a fresh discourse on arranged marriage and changing arranged marriage patterns that reflect these principles in order to arrive at a much needed and understudied fuller appreciation and conversation of a marital system that engages hundreds of millions.

In order to be as impartial as humanly possible, this article does not offer personal opinions on or preferences for the arranged or the autonomous marriage. It is of fundamental importance that any scholar on the arranged marriage system and many other subjects for that matter is an unbiased scholar or at least strives to be.

Authors referring to this binary are eg F. Anitha and A. Mohr, p. Notably, H. Douglas ed. Sennett, Authority New York: W. Norton, Lee and L. Compare Ahmad n 1 ; see also Pande n 1 82; see also Aguiar n 1 Nisbet n 4 pp. Publishers, ; see also Arendt n 4 , on progress theory.

See S. Witte Jr. Xiaohe and M. See for these terms W. Allendorf and R. Enright n 20 ; Shariff n 1 ; Anitha and Gill n 1 ; G. Aguiar n 1 11—13, see also Anitha and Gill n 1 ; Shariff n 1. Hodge and N. See for a slightly different categorization R. Zaidi and M. Qureshi n 43 as referred to by Zaidi and Shuraydi n 43 ; Gagoomal n 25 ; Cherlin n 10 ; see also for modified traditional types, Shariff n 1 ; H. Qureshi n 43 , as referred to by Zaidi and Shuraydi n 43 ; S. Shariff n 1 ; S. Manglos-Weber and A.

Shariff n 1 , who refers to M. Stopes-Roe and R. Ahmad n 1 , ; M. Keyserling ed. Pande n 21 , italics added, referring to the Oxford English Dictionary. Charsley and A. Pande n 1 75; for more on this love see K. Lewis ed.

Reeve: Democracy in America London: as referred to by Dumont n 4 Weber n 3 , translation by H. Ahmad n 1 p. Khandelwal n 1 ; Ahmad n 1 ; Pande n 1 ; Mohammad n 83 ; Pande n 44 For existing analyses on the topic, see Goode n 13 ; D.

Mace and V. See e. Aguiar n 1 15, 25, —44; G. See eg Goode n 13 pp. Tocqueville vol 2 n 76 90—92, as referred to by Dumont n 4 17; Shaw n 19 6. Dumont n 4 66, , , ; Crone n pp. Bendix et al eds. Thompson et al n 4 6; Dumont n 4 17—19; see in general on guardianship Dahl n 4 52—64, Parsons n , as referred to by Dumont n 4 19, see also , Crone n p. Tocqueville II n 76 , as referred to by Dumont n 4 18; see also Sennett n 4